There is no shortage of documented cases of Jewish Young Adults settling into adult relationships with their conventional neurotic peers, even while wishing they were partnered with Non-Stereotypical Jews. What is less documented, and somewhat counter-intuitive, is the ritual of preparation that occurs before the JYA officially sets out to find a potential life partner. Specifically, there is a period of practice and training that many JYAs undergo to develop sexual experience. What demarcates this practice stage of debauchery is that JYAs seek out sexual experiences with Non-Jews.
It is true that most JYAs first sexual encounters take place during their teen years at summer camps, Israel trips, or Youth Group conventions, as these are veritable Meccas for nascent JYAs, drawing in pilgrimage-like droves of Jewish Teens to experience religious and ethnic community, explore their faith, and receive handies. After these initial experiences, however, the JYA will spend many years sifting through various partners until finally settling on another JYA. It is in the “grey space” of college and early to mid-twenties where JYAs will typically look to add at least one Non-Jewish notch to their unbuckled belts.
For male JYAs, the typical gentile target is either a female of Asian decent from any faith, or a Catholic female with typical Aryan features including blonde hair and blue eyes. Female JYAs hunt for tall athletic males with light brown hair and 20/20 vision, with bonus points for Lacrosse/Football players or “legacy” WASPs with names like “James Everett Worthington III”.
The main subconscious force driving this brief period of Gentile-loving is the pressure of at least two decades of Jewish Elders and Jewish Adults reiterating that only another Jew will suffice for dating and marital purposes. The weight of this burden creates an unquenchable subversive curiosity in JYAs to see what they are missing and to try something completely different before their life assumes its inevitable course. As female JYA and Cornell Junior “Beth” pointed relates: “After Ari and I broke up I went out with this guy Chris and he totally didn’t care that I ordered shrimp, and he didn’t even ask me to cover the tip or split the bill. Ari was never like that. It was so refreshing”.
While most parents will turn a blind eye to a little bit of inter-faith carnal dabbling, there is some concern among Jewish elders that the JYA will find out that he or she prefers dating Non-Jews over other JYAs. Fortunately for those who want their parents to spring for the wedding, there is a trend among single JYAs that Non-Jews, while sexually gratifying and diverting, should be viewed as temporary. Or, as JYA “Jacob” notes, “Shiksas are for practice, Jewesses are for keeps”.